Mom shaming, stop it!

Attention mom shamers! This one is for you, yes you.

Moms have the right and the prerogative to do what they want to do when they want and with whom the want to. PERIOD!

If a mom decides to breastfeed till her kid is damn near her height that’s her problem. If she takes an epidural, so what? If she doesn’t, what’s the big deal? Stop with the shaming and commentary about her proving to be superwoman by not taking the epi or she’s lazy that’s why she did. Refrain from saying she’s inappropriate because she’s giving her baby singlehandedly the most nutritious food they will ever consume in their entire life longer than the timeline you deem appropriate for yourself. Tired of hearing that moms with more than 2 kids have one too many and can’t keep it together, or women with no kids are selfish or infertile. How is it any of your business the choices they make for themselves and their families. The one that kills me is the famous “wow! you have it all together and you have 3 kids. Such a backhanded compliment. Like why would you think I wouldn’t have it all together?

Then there’s the mom who low key judges you because you take your kid to physical school in the middle of a pandemic, and thinks you are endangering your child therefore that makes you have poor judgement. Or you hire a nanny to help out around the house and with occasional or frequent drop offs to appointments and activities.

Oh but let’s not talk about the moms who judge the working moms who have spouses who stay at home or both work or both travel for work so the nanny needs to step in. God forbid you missed a soccer game or a dance recital because you had to deliver a baby or give a presentation at work. Stop it with the shaming.

The job is hard enough as it is, it’s filled with so many decisions daily and I’m here to officially declare that whatever decision you make mom, trust me it’s the right one. The inner struggle is real and no one, I repeat no one will ever have a clue the amount of emotional and mental gymnastics you do every nanosecond for the sake of your children.

Don’t you dare let anyone, or any mom for that matter come and steal your joy, get in your business but package it as friendship or support. Rid yourself of the negative energy and judgmental vibes. Or the folks who check on you just to see how bad things are and then proceed to tell you that’s mom life, with this emoji. 🤷🏾‍♀️ You didn’t have to do it. I wouldn’t have noticed if you didn’t “check-in”.

You’re doing amazing and I celebrate you. All epidural taking, all natural birthing, c-section having, breastfeeding, formula feeding, working (boardroom baddie), housewifeing, stay-at-home momming, Chanel wearing, wal-mart shopping, nanny hiring, physical schooling in a pandemic, take-out loving, home cooking (7 days-a-week), tummy tucking, gym going, weight struggling, single momming lot of you. You are strong, selfless and damn near superhuman for doing what you’re doing for your babies.

Let it be said here first that March is officially the anti-mom-shaming month. Right there next to the celebration of women’s history month. And if it kills me, it will be all 365 days of the year!

Check the energy you let around you or in your circle and preserve your peace.

PS — we’re not perfect, so to all the moms I ever accidentally shamed, I’m sorry. I vow to forever be in your corner and to never shame again.

Now go kiss that baby! ❤️

Shout out to all the moms trying to hold it down for other moms out there.